Happy Monday!….. We realise this might be something of a Paradox, but we can’t but help but feel sorry for Mondays. It really isn’t their fault that the working week starts with these guys, so we wish Mondays happiness and go on our merry way, especially as the sun is shining and, thankfully, it does not appear to be Minus Ten outside.
Our question this week comes from the latest research on divorcing couples. A new study indicates that depending upon whether a spouse feels guilt or shame, their conduct in the divorce process will vary, with quite distinct results. The report goes on to suggest that if a spouse feels guilty, their behaviour is more likely to be conciliatory but if a spouse feels ashamed, the opposite is true and that spouse is more likely to be confrontational. Do you agree?
Possible answer: This study is quite narrow and we are not told what nationalities took part, but we feel it is too simplistic. Variations in reaction to a traumatic event like divorce, we feel, differ greatly from culture to culture and person to person and in any event, guilt and shame are often so closely interlinked in divorce that one spouse may feel both emotions at any given time.
